Sunday, November 3, 2013
In our own wisdom, we were hoping to boast of a new baby in our next post. God evidently has something else in mind for us. Since May we have received three calls about possible babies. These possibilities brought much excitement and dreams that were left unfulfilled, and each time, our excitement was a little more guarded.
The first 2 situations the birthmoms chose us and then in some way or another changed their minds and went with other options. The third opportunity came unexpectedly through a friend of a friend of a friend, and it was about twin girls that were already born! That possibility rocked our world for a few days, (in a good way). The excitement with this one was short-lived, which we are thankful for since it’s harder when it drags on. We are grateful for God’s grace in each of these situations. His grace never runs out and always gives us what we need, even in times of sorrow. We are also thankful that God is sovereign and wise, and that these closed doors are actually bringing us closer to the plan God has established for our family; although, this truth is not an easy one to swallow.
We have been surrounded by an incredible community that lovingly and boldly affirms this call to adopt, even in the midst of deep sadness. We are so thankful for those of you who are praying and asking us how things are going with our adoption journey. Some of you would or have shied away from asking for our sake, but we LOVE being asked because it reminds us we’re not in this alone. Just be ready for the ‘real’ answer whatever it may be in the moment. :)
We would like to take a moment and encourage you with Romans 12:9-16:
“Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord. Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality. Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight.”
God has especially been teaching us about the bolded section. Through the past several months we have learned to be more aware and sensitive to those around us who are hurting and dealing with sadness. Sometimes our padded reactions to other’s pain can be more discouraging than encouraging, especially when they downplay the heartache that people are going through. We have found that the most encouraging response to our hurt is a sincere, “I’m sorry…” Thank you to those of you who have responded to our disappointments and tears by just saying, “I’m sorry”. Thank you to those of you who have rejoiced with us as opportunities have come and mourned with us in our disappointments. This is part of being in community and we are so thankful for the community, far and near, that God has set us in.
This process has certainly been a PROCESS! Though we thought, hoped and prayed that we would have news of a baby before our next post we have come to realize that this was our own wisdom. Our wisdom is foolishness, because we plan with our desires being the loudest voice, but God sees the bigger picture which is for our ultimate good. Isaiah 53:12 says, “Behold, my servant (Jesus) shall act wisely; he shall be high and lifted up, and shall be exalted.” God is showing us His wisdom in our waiting. He already knows our children and knows who He has determined to be in our family. So we wait, but not alone. We wait in a Wisdom that reveals the character of the King we trust implicitly.